Finding Peace Within, Before Finding The One

Over the past few posts I know the narrative has been filled with humor and drama. I wanted to use this post to insert some of my personal thoughts on what has been happening on the journey of navigating through singleness.

For starters, women tend to jump into finding a partner based on the pressures surrounding them (i.e. a majority of her friends are married or in a relationship). Also because she wants to be socially accepted and fit in with everyone else.

Over all I don’t think that there is anything wrong with wanting to find someone to help you navigate through this pre apocalyptic world. My question to you is what’s wrong with taking a little more time to make sure that you are ready and to know what it is you are looking for.

For a lot of women the final nail in the coffin is the fact that often times we act on impulse and emotion, almost, always seeking instant gratification. Nothing of substance was made over night, so why would a successful relationship?

I recently came across a post with instructions of simple exercises that can aide in fine tuning just what it is that you are actually looking for in a partner. I’m going to do these exercises myself to see if I have things figured out as well as I think I do.

Here’s the link:

We also need to be realistic as what to expect from men. We can’t imagine a perfect man with absolutely no flaws. I’d hate to break it to you, but once you do that you’re going to get disappointed and heart broken in relationship you have.

Men have their own group of pressured. Sometimes, we need to look at things with a different set of eyes.

In conclusion we are our own worst enemy when it comes to dating, and failing to prepare is to prepare to fail. I don’t know about you guys but I want success in all things that I do. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment box below.

Happy hunting ladies.


The New Age Marco Polo Chase

As the weeks have progressed, Catalina’s life resembles a character from Jane Austen’s “Persuasion.” For those of you unfamiliar with the novel, it is a story about a couple that just can’t seem to overcome circumstance and the frailty of the human mind to honor the real feelings of their hearts. You can read the full summary here:

like the character Anne, Catalina has been waiting to be with Jason but things just keep getting between them.
Let’s Recap.
In the beginning, when Catalina had numerous opportunities to say something to Jason she let them slip away because of her insecurities. Then when she found the strength and will to actively pursue something that her heart desired, unforeseen circumstances kept hitting her with road blocks. Yes, this was very frustrating and somewhat a deterrent, but just like Anne who never stopped hoping Catalina still believed that her moment would come.
After the three week Hiatus.
Catalina reaffirmed to herself that she would not allow this opportunity to pass her by again. Although, Jason is a stranger to her he possess something that is very desirable. It could be his physical appearance, the tremendous positive energy emanating from him or his zest for life. After all, the only true failure is to never really try at all. Once again she found herself at church ready to speak to Jason and see just where the possibilities would lead.
You’ll never guess what happened this time.
Once again he wasn’t there. Go figure, right. Catalina is a religious person and believes in signs. There are many ways to interpret this incident. One: There is a major spiritual reason as to why she just can’t seem to get her way. Two: Like “Persuasion” sometimes love doesn’t work out the way you expect or within the timeline you want it to. Third: Simply, Catalina and Jason come from two different worlds and it’s near to impossible for either to cross over.
We are at a crossroads again, and Catalina has to wait for the right opportunity or chose to move on. I’d love to hear your take on this. Also there’s a new poll up.
Can’t wait to read your comments.