Another One Bites The Dust

“Sometimes giving up, doesn’t mean that you’ve lost.”

Many of you may have forgotten about Catalina and Jason. If so here’s a recap:

These two were first featured in my previous blog entitled ” Approaching A Potential Match In Church: Yikes!”

Catalina was struggling with whether she should ask Jason out or not. He is the worship leader at the church that she attends. I like to refer to him as a mini celebrity.

Since then she has asked him out and has continuously made ATTEMPTS to establish communication between them.

The Take Off Was A Bit Rocky…
The first interaction between the two seemed promising. She asked him out and established interest. Then sometime passed and she tried to talk to him again. Well those times didn’t go so well.

One of the times, he didn’t speak at all. There wasn’t any eye contact. Just a complete and utter failure.

The last encounter had humor, laughter and even a nice hug at the end, but she walked away with absolutely nothing. He didn’t remember her from the previous conversations. He forgot all about the fact that she asked him out. She was no closer to knowing if he liked her or not.


“There’s a possibility that it may not all be his fault.”


Here’s Why:
There has been extremely long stretches of time between each of their interactions. From what I’ve learned, men tend to be singular minded individuals. They tend to lack the ability to remember far off things, and can’t shift focus at a moments notice.

Jason talks to numerous people daily. Maybe Catalina got swept into that large crowd. There are always plenty of people vying for his attention while he is in the middle of speaking to someone.
All in all, the time and place just never seems to be ideal. Then again when  is life.


There’s Always A Lesson To Be Learned:
This has helped Catalina shift her perspective on things. It is extremely evident that this isn’t going anywhere, at least for right now. What’s the harm in taking a step back and letting Jason come to her for a change, if his interest in her is equal to her interest in him.

Some people spend their entire life chasing something that was never meant for them to have. At times, while you’re chasing the wrong thing you may miss the thing that’s right for you.

Catalina knows just how wonderful she is. It isn’t her job to convince someone of that, only to love them once they realize it.

You don’t have to agree with her take on the situation. The comment box is open for your opinion.


Single Ladies Scavenger Hunt

What if you’re searching in the right places, but someone else beats you to it?
Does everyone remember Amy? If not here’s a recap.
Amy is best friends with Catalina and she is also single and looking to mingle. She has also done what Catalina has, and that’s searching for a potential match in church.
Unlike Catalina, Amy has a unique obstacle standing in her way.
Amy met Ben around the same time that Catalina was interested in Jason. Unlike Jason, Ben is very social and approached Amy and Catalina instantly. After the services at church the trios always stop for a few minutes for a nice chat.
Here’s where it gets rocky. Amy is a bit shy and doesn’t know how to tell Ben that she interested in him. Catalina volunteers to be her wing man and open up the possibility of Amy getting Ben’s number.
These two ladies are all set to initiate what they planned until. (Wait! I need to get the exact exchange of words in quotes).
Ben: “Are you guys going on the retreat?”
Amy: “We’re working on it.”
Ben: “You guys should definitely try to make it.”
Catalina: “Yea, we’ll definitely make it if you’re paying.”
Yes you read that right. The charismatic and friendly Ben is engaged. Catalina quickly congratulated him and then she and Amy scampered off with their tails between their legs.

Amy tries looking for a potential match in the workplace. According to 57-62% of people admit to office romances during their 2015 survey. Here’s a link if you’re interested in reading more.
For Amy those look like some good odds. Amy started working for a new company a few months ago and met a co- worker named Adam. He is very tall and handsome with a great personality. Amy also finds out that he is a Christian. She uses this information to invite him to service so that she may work up the courage to ask him out, but unfortunately he never shows.
Adam is shrouded around mystery for a few days until Amy’s co-worker acts as her wing man and questions Adam about his interest in Amy. Her wing man returns with these words:
“He’s basically ENGAGED, but he said that if he wasn’t he would be interested.”
Talk about a sword through the heart twice.
How would you handle knowing that the person would want you just as much as you want them if only you had met them first? Don’t be shy guys and share your opinion on Amy’s misfortune.

Finding Peace Within, Before Finding The One

Over the past few posts I know the narrative has been filled with humor and drama. I wanted to use this post to insert some of my personal thoughts on what has been happening on the journey of navigating through singleness.

For starters, women tend to jump into finding a partner based on the pressures surrounding them (i.e. a majority of her friends are married or in a relationship). Also because she wants to be socially accepted and fit in with everyone else.

Over all I don’t think that there is anything wrong with wanting to find someone to help you navigate through this pre apocalyptic world. My question to you is what’s wrong with taking a little more time to make sure that you are ready and to know what it is you are looking for.

For a lot of women the final nail in the coffin is the fact that often times we act on impulse and emotion, almost, always seeking instant gratification. Nothing of substance was made over night, so why would a successful relationship?

I recently came across a post with instructions of simple exercises that can aide in fine tuning just what it is that you are actually looking for in a partner. I’m going to do these exercises myself to see if I have things figured out as well as I think I do.

Here’s the link:

We also need to be realistic as what to expect from men. We can’t imagine a perfect man with absolutely no flaws. I’d hate to break it to you, but once you do that you’re going to get disappointed and heart broken in relationship you have.

Men have their own group of pressured. Sometimes, we need to look at things with a different set of eyes.

In conclusion we are our own worst enemy when it comes to dating, and failing to prepare is to prepare to fail. I don’t know about you guys but I want success in all things that I do. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment box below.

Happy hunting ladies.

Shots, Shots, Anyone?

The result of last week’s vote, the majority wants to patiently wait for Jason and Catalina to see each other i July. Until then allow me to update you on what kind of mischief she’s gotten herself into now. She recently attended a party thrown by a close friend. She knew all the attendees for various periods of time throughout her life (i.e. co-workers, school peers, childhood friends etc.). It seems she has forgotten just what happens when this particular group of people come together.
Let’s discuss the highlights of the night.
There were endless drinking games, one called Kings. If you haven’t heard of it hears a link to how you play Now what fun would a game be if there wasn’t some cheating going involved? There were only Kings and Queens being picked and when the deck was examined there was well over the normal amount of suits. Then being the innovative crowd that they were designed a completely original game. Spin the Bottle shots, pictured in above photo.
Once everyone was nicely inebriated Truth or Dare began. This is a favorite of Catalina’s. Her good friend Amy started the game off. She dared Alonzo to run around the block in just his boxers. (This was not the first time he had to do this Dare). He agreed without hesitation. He stripped down to just his boxers and then got his running playlist ready.
What I didn’t mention before is that at the end of Plum St. there is a police precinct nestled at the corner. I would consider that a major obstacle. None the less Alonzo took off running like Road Runner being chased by Wile E. Coyote. The group of party goers followed to find him hiding behind a car until a patrol of policemen passed. Alonzo finished his run, remaining the Dare champion for now.
The entire night wasn’t all PG13. Apparently, there was a hook-up while everyone else was partying. I call these two A and B. A has had crush on B for some time but couldn’t close the deal. Again when alcohol comes into play things change. A, somehow convinced B to go for the homerun while everyone was playing Truth or Dare. (I can’t wait to hear how this turns out). While at the end of the night, a friend of Catalina’s tried to take things there with her as well.
Let me explain. Let’s call the friend George. He texted Catalina after the party and asked a question I think most girls would like to be asked. “I’m not being rude or disrespectful but I wanna eat your p***y,” was what the text read. Now Catalina gets propositioned like this quite often. She rolls her eyes and doesn’t respond. That doesn’t stop George for asking again. What makes this question audacious is George isn’t someone Catalina is interested in. They weren’t on the level of becoming more than friends. This question in fact just came out of the blue after George got amply drunk.
What a dilemma she has been facing, she’s getting attention from all the wrong guys and the one that may be right for her is hiding. Please post your opinion on this one in the comment box.

Joyriding with a Stranger: Wait where’s Jason?

I know this post was supposed to be an update of what happened between Catalina and Jason. Remember that divine intervention that she mentioned before, well it turns out that it has struck again. Catalina mentally prepared herself all week for the big moment that she was sure she was going to have. She had gotten her hair done and found a cute outfit in her closet. She polished her nails and toes and looked her absolutely best. While she was waiting in line to enter the church for service she over hears two of the volunteers talking. They mentioned that Jason wouldn’t be in church today because he and the rest of the choir are away in Seattle for a concert.
Sorry guys Catalina’s story with Jason has to be postponed until July. I’m hoping they miraculously bump into each other before then, but at the rate that things are going it looks grim.
Onward to the focus of this blog. Although the night began with a slight set back. Catalina and her best friend Amy found adventure on a bus. After church the routine for these two is to take the B100 to their house because they lived pretty close to each other. What made this night different from all the rest is the fact that they didn’t board the bus to the normal driver of that route. The driver who I dub Lancelot was very charismatic and upbeat. He was amiable and both ladies took a liking to him instantly. The conversation was fun and bubbly until Amy reached her stop. The conversation with Catalina was more in depth uncovering the desires of the soul. Her end of the journey was near until Lancelot asked her to stay on and ride to the last stop. Now Catalina has never done anything like this before and couldn’t pass up a chance to have an adventure, so she said yes.
The last stop changed into riding the entire line all over again. Things seemed to be progressing nicely until Lancelot asked to spend the night. This was a bad omen. They are both strangers and her adventurous side does have its limits. Catalina decided this was the end of the ride until Lancelot circled back around to Amy’s stop and she rejoined the party bus.
Catalina and Amy rode the bus all the way to the depot, there they waited for Lancelot to arrive and give them a ride home. Detour after detour was made, suddenly these ladies began to wonder if they would ever make it home. First Lancelot goes home to change from his bus uniform. Then he brings Amy and Catalina over to his brother’s house, who I call Trey. Trey is the opposite of Lancelot. He is demur and eloquent. The night seemed to hold more adventure when it was decided to go out for drinks. They made a pit stop for some gas and the plans changed again. Now everyone was to depart and head home. Catalina was dropped off first.
She dressed for bed as her head was reeling from all the twists and turns of the night. Lancelot didn’t give up. He began texting her in an attempt to convince her to allow him to come over. Catalina was warming up to the idea until he stated that he wanted to spend the night with her. Again doing this with someone you haven’t even know for a full 24 hours didn’t sound ideal to her. So she said no and things with Lancelot ended there.

My question to you guys is do you agree with Catalina’s decision. I’d like to hear some feedback. Do you even want a follow up with Jason if it ever happens? Don’t be shy, tell me what you think. I also have a new poll for you to vote on. If you have any stories or ideas of your own, please feel free to submit them.

Approaching a potential match in church: yikes!

Okay please reserve all your judgements until the end of this post and you’ve read the entire story. The female perplexed by this situation is going to be named Catalina for the rest of the post and the male mouthwatering specimen will be named Jason. If you guys don’t like the names, to bad. Now let’s proceed with the story shall we…

Once upon a time on a Friday night at a youth service, Catalina finally gets to see Jason the choir director up close. She has been to this church before on Sunday’s and Jason opens every service. This day in particular inspires her to take notice of him more so than before. She notices that he is genuinely handsome and exudes a charm and kindness that pulls her closer to him. He is different from all the others because of his confidence to sing about his love for the lord day in and day out with an infectious energy. In fact, Catalina’s new found faith was strengthened by the music Jason sings at every service. She decides that she wants to introduce herself to him and see where things go from there.

The first attempt: On the following Friday, Catalina’s nerves are everywhere. There are clear opportunities to make eye contact with Jason but she always looks away. At the end of the service Catalina plans an approach but Jason never leaves the instrumental pit. Catalina and her sidekick Amy (for the purpose of this blog) regroup and come up with an alternate plan. Catalina (being the stalker that she is) knows what exit Jason will come out of. Her and Amy walk up to the exit and wait for him there. By some unforeseen and unfortunate circumstance Jason does exit from the same door but walks in the opposite direction. Catalina is too frustrated to try and catch up with him.

The second attempt: On the first Friday of the month that this particular service is being held. Catalina shows up in a new outfit, heels and an eye catching hair style. She tries to make eye contact with him every chance she gets but he refuses to return any of her glances. Catalina doesn’t lose her cool and remains patient until the end of the service. Eventually he does leave the instrumental pit but is immediately swept away by a young girl that looks like a fan. Catalina decides to wait until Jason is done speaking to the girl because she wanted his complete attention. This finally happens but another person intervenes and takes his attention and him away. Catalina is beginning to read these incidents as a sign from God that maybe she shouldn’t pursue Jason any further. Amy and her other friends tell her she isn’t really making an effort. Here is where the indecisiveness stems from. First, this is a church for crying out loud. Catalina feels as if this breaks every church protocol there is to pick up a guy in church, no matter how great you think he is. Secondly, this is new territory for her. She has never had a crush on someone at church before and no advice given to her could possibly apply to a situation such as this.

Although, this situation seems unlikely to become successful, Catalina is determined to try one last time. She has a full SEVEN days before the next service. I turn her story to you my readers. Please take the time to vote on what she should do next in the poll below or if you have alternate suggestions, comment, advice etc. feel free to post them at the end of this blog.

I’ll be checking back throughout the week to see how the discussion is going. Remember SEVEN days and counting.