Finding Peace Within, Before Finding The One

Over the past few posts I know the narrative has been filled with humor and drama. I wanted to use this post to insert some of my personal thoughts on what has been happening on the journey of navigating through singleness.

For starters, women tend to jump into finding a partner based on the pressures surrounding them (i.e. a majority of her friends are married or in a relationship). Also because she wants to be socially accepted and fit in with everyone else.

Over all I don’t think that there is anything wrong with wanting to find someone to help you navigate through this pre apocalyptic world. My question to you is what’s wrong with taking a little more time to make sure that you are ready and to know what it is you are looking for.

For a lot of women the final nail in the coffin is the fact that often times we act on impulse and emotion, almost, always seeking instant gratification. Nothing of substance was made over night, so why would a successful relationship?

I recently came across a post with instructions of simple exercises that can aide in fine tuning just what it is that you are actually looking for in a partner. I’m going to do these exercises myself to see if I have things figured out as well as I think I do.

Here’s the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/stacia-pierce/how-to-attract-a-partner-in-7-easy-steps_b_4618737.html

We also need to be realistic as what to expect from men. We can’t imagine a perfect man with absolutely no flaws. I’d hate to break it to you, but once you do that you’re going to get disappointed and heart broken in relationship you have.

Men have their own group of pressured. Sometimes, we need to look at things with a different set of eyes.

In conclusion we are our own worst enemy when it comes to dating, and failing to prepare is to prepare to fail. I don’t know about you guys but I want success in all things that I do. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment box below.

Happy hunting ladies.

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Approaching a potential match in church: yikes!

Okay please reserve all your judgements until the end of this post and you’ve read the entire story. The female perplexed by this situation is going to be named Catalina for the rest of the post and the male mouthwatering specimen will be named Jason. If you guys don’t like the names, to bad. Now let’s proceed with the story shall we…

Once upon a time on a Friday night at a youth service, Catalina finally gets to see Jason the choir director up close. She has been to this church before on Sunday’s and Jason opens every service. This day in particular inspires her to take notice of him more so than before. She notices that he is genuinely handsome and exudes a charm and kindness that pulls her closer to him. He is different from all the others because of his confidence to sing about his love for the lord day in and day out with an infectious energy. In fact, Catalina’s new found faith was strengthened by the music Jason sings at every service. She decides that she wants to introduce herself to him and see where things go from there.

The first attempt: On the following Friday, Catalina’s nerves are everywhere. There are clear opportunities to make eye contact with Jason but she always looks away. At the end of the service Catalina plans an approach but Jason never leaves the instrumental pit. Catalina and her sidekick Amy (for the purpose of this blog) regroup and come up with an alternate plan. Catalina (being the stalker that she is) knows what exit Jason will come out of. Her and Amy walk up to the exit and wait for him there. By some unforeseen and unfortunate circumstance Jason does exit from the same door but walks in the opposite direction. Catalina is too frustrated to try and catch up with him.

The second attempt: On the first Friday of the month that this particular service is being held. Catalina shows up in a new outfit, heels and an eye catching hair style. She tries to make eye contact with him every chance she gets but he refuses to return any of her glances. Catalina doesn’t lose her cool and remains patient until the end of the service. Eventually he does leave the instrumental pit but is immediately swept away by a young girl that looks like a fan. Catalina decides to wait until Jason is done speaking to the girl because she wanted his complete attention. This finally happens but another person intervenes and takes his attention and him away. Catalina is beginning to read these incidents as a sign from God that maybe she shouldn’t pursue Jason any further. Amy and her other friends tell her she isn’t really making an effort. Here is where the indecisiveness stems from. First, this is a church for crying out loud. Catalina feels as if this breaks every church protocol there is to pick up a guy in church, no matter how great you think he is. Secondly, this is new territory for her. She has never had a crush on someone at church before and no advice given to her could possibly apply to a situation such as this.

Although, this situation seems unlikely to become successful, Catalina is determined to try one last time. She has a full SEVEN days before the next service. I turn her story to you my readers. Please take the time to vote on what she should do next in the poll below or if you have alternate suggestions, comment, advice etc. feel free to post them at the end of this blog.

I’ll be checking back throughout the week to see how the discussion is going. Remember SEVEN days and counting.